Why You Need to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

25/10/16

Take time to Reflect

and Pat Yourself on the Back
We all lead super busy lives. The early morning commute, the 6am alarms, the 7pm finishes, the after work drinks, the constant meetings, events, schmoozing. All in the name of progression, networking and living an interesting lifestyle. But there are times when it really does start to pull me down. How about you?! My head is filled with check lists, must-do lists and things to remember up until the time I rest my head on my pillow, and even then I usually end up dreaming about the work I will be doing tomorrow. In fact, I find it so hard to shut off these days that I have suffered with night terrors of varying intensities nearly every night for the past three years.

And there are so many times that I am so busy, arranging meetings, developing my new season wardrobe, organising my next flights, writing my latest blog posts, that I don’t actually take time to sit back and reflect on what I’m doing and what I’ve done. I don’t give myself enough credit for how much I manage to squeeze into my weeks. I often work all day, on a super exciting project beyond my wildest dreams, and then I’ll spot a project someone else is working on and feel that twinge of envy. What am I even thinking?! I am probably working on something just as exciting and yet I get that silly fomo as soon as I see someone else doing something super cool. And the spiral of comparison continues a few times a week.

It’s gotten to a point where I’m starting to notice the signs of envy seeping into my mindset, and I’ve worked out my own way to deal with it. It’s not jealousy, as over the last few years I have managed to turn these sorts of feelings into more positive feelings of appraisal. Instead I feel envious and add it to my list of things to potentially achieve myself in the future. I am grateful every single day for the cool things I get to take part in. They’re beyond my wildest dreams could ever have imagined. Last week I was in Barcelona shooting a new TV advert for L’Oreal. Erm, hello! A fricking TV advert for L’Oreal Paris! And yet I put myself down and feel like I’m not doing my best.

At this point, I sit back and start to think about everything I have to be thankful for and the things I have achieved lately. For you it might be a household or career goal like painting your guest room, buying yourself a gorgeous new handbag that makes you feel amazing or landing that promotion. It might even be that you have that incredible relationship that couldn’t compare to anyone else’s, or, you’re loving your life as a singleton and living life to the fullest. The fact is that whilst you compare your life to someone else’s life/relationship/house/job, you will probably find that in most cases, the grass really is never greener.

So seriously, chill. Take a step back, think about what you have going on with your life and give yourself a pat on the back. You’ve made it this far, carved out your own pathway, your own career and your own relationships. Don’t let someone else’s life choices make you feel anything but positive about your own. You, are seriously awesome.

Ready to stop comparing? Is this something you deal with also? How do you deal with it – or maybe you don’t deal with it very well. I’d love to hear your thoughts on comparison, especially in such a digital, visual world!

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